Her answer? Through habits, the invisible architecture of everyday life. It takes work to make a habit, but once that habit is set, we can harness the energy of habits to build happier, stronger, more productive lives.
So how do we instill good habits into our routine and banish the destructive ones? It turns out that overcoming a penchant for acting impulsively is not only possible, it’s the best way to build the better habits you’ve been longing for.
Escaping from the impulsivity trap
A key for understanding many bad habits? Impulsivity. Impulsive people have trouble delaying satisfaction and considering long-term consequences; they find it difficult to plan ahead, and once they start a task, they struggle to stick with it. Also, when impulsive people feel anxious about performing a task, they often try to make themselves feel better by avoiding the task, by procrastinating. However, while some people are more impulsive than others, we all sometimes feel the urge to succumb to some immediate gratification—and often, that means breaking a good habit.
The harder it is to do something, the harder it is to do it impulsively, so inconvenience helps us stick to good habits. There are six obvious ways to make an activity less convenient:
Because the inconvenience of decision making makes us less likely to act, employers can use the Strategy of Inconvenience to prod employees to develop good financial habits. For instance, by setting helpful default options for retirement funds, employers “nudge” employees into participating. Employees could always change the default options, but it takes effort, so most people don’t bother—which means that without any conscious decision or effort, they’ve got the hidden habit of saving for retirement.
In the areas of eating and drinking, people come up with all sorts of ingenious ways to exploit Inconvenience: “I eat with my nondominant hand.” “I use chopsticks whenever I eat at home.” “I keep the temperature of my freezer turned very low. When the ice cream is rock hard, I have to work to chip out a few spoonfuls.” “Instead of putting platters on the table, I keep them in the kitchen, so I have to get up to get more food.” “My wife insists on keeping cookies in the house, so I tie them up in a bag that’s a pain to open.” “Instead of taking wine, which I gulp down, I drink whiskey, which I have to sip.” Many colleges have eliminated cafeteria trays; when students can’t easily load up on food and must make multiple trips, they take less. One study found that going trayless cut food waste by as much as 25 to 30 percent, and I bet people eat less, too.
In one extreme example, when three armed men burst into the home of renowned socialite Anne Bass and demanded that she open her safe, they discovered a few hundred dollars, some jewelry—and chocolate. She explained to the puzzled robbers that she kept the chocolate in her safe so that she wouldn’t eat it too quickly. She used the Strategy of Inconvenience.
Of course, sometimes we don’t make a habit inconvenient because we don’t really want to change. A friend said, “I have a bad habit of checking my phone while I’m driving. It’s sitting on the seat next to me, and I hear it buzzing, and I can’t resist. How do I increase my self-control, so I don’t check it? How do I get more motivated by safety?”
“Forget about self- control and motivation,” I suggested. “How about muting the phone and putting it on the floor of the backseat? You won’t know it’s buzzing, and you wouldn’t be able to reach it anyway.”
“Oh.” He looked disappointed. And I realized that he didn’t really want to stop the habit of checking his phone.
Adapted from BETTER THAN BEFORE: WHAT I LEARNED ABOUT MAKING AND BREAKING HABITS—TO SLEEP MORE, QUIT SUGAR, PROCRASTINATE LESS, AND GENERALLY BUILD A HAPPIER LIFE Copyright © 2015 by Gretchen Rubin. Published by Broadway Books, an imprint of the Crown Publishing Group, a division of Penguin Random House LLC.